I've always HATED the song Love the One You're With.
Who wants to feel like a second choice? Isn't the point of love finding someone you can't live without?
Watching Secret Life of the American Teenager the other night, there was a moment where Amy and Ben made eye contact just before Ben's wedding, and this song started playing in my head.
Due to complications, it would be extremely difficult for these two to be together. It is easier for Amy to be with Ricky and for Ben to be with Adrian. Does this mean they don't still love the others? I'm not sure.. Maybe they fell out of love to fall into love with the others, or maybe it is an out of sight, out of mind thing. And in that case, maybe they really do love their new partners.
We will never know if they would've fallen in love if they could've stayed with their first loves. Do they love the new ones because they're able to be with them, or was all of this caused by fate?
Obviously this blog post isn't about The Secret Life of the American Teenager but it sparked these thoughts..
My question is: Can you love with your head and your heart? And what if they don't agree? Can you love someone with both, or just one of each?
What do you think?
wow, insightful, and so glad someone else thinks about this. I believe that some people are capable of loving with both their head and their heart and to know you are the recipient of such love is truly a gift.... but I was told once in a bible study session that every time we date or fall in love with someone they take a piece of our heart so in the end the man we marry will only receive half of our heart (or mind too I suppose), and I truly believe that. It doesn't mean you can't love big and be in love with the one you end up with of course... but I know personally, there are people (not many of course) who do still have a bit of my heart (including my husband mind you), but my mind tells me that where I am is where I am meant to be, and it's best for me... I believe God has a plan and whether I understand it, or my heart is 100% sure of it, this is where I belong and who I belong with .
ReplyDeleteSorry that was so long winded....